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Dating in The Winter or Cold Weather Months
Dating in The Winter or Cold Weather Months
Dating in the winter or cold weather months doesn't have to be boring. There is much more you can do during the winter than just the traditional dinner and a movie.
To find the best options for dating in the winter or cold weather months, it really just requires you to take a little more time.
Dating or doing much of anything in the summer can be pretty easy and care free. For the most part, your biggest concern is whether or not you will have any rain.
Even that is likely to be a fairly short-lived event and not an all-day washout.
The winter months, though, can be a little more challenging and may require a little more planning.
If the weather is going to be really bad: extremely cold, windy, or snowy outdoor activities won't be that pleasant.
But there are still plenty of things you can do outside on "nice" days. Most places will have days where there isn't much wind and the sun are bright and shiny and temperatures are tolerable.
On those type of days, you can go sledding, make a snowman, go snowshoeing, go skiing or snowboarding or just go for a hike in the woods.
Everything looks different and beautiful after a fresh snow. It can be wonderful to get out and spend some time outdoors.
Of course, if that isn't your cup of tea, there are still many indoor activities that can be done in the winter. There are concerts, art exhibits, museums and aquariums (many of which will have specials) as well as planetariums.
Also, during the winter months, there are many sporting events that take place; check out your own town. Many places have smaller, local teams that play during the winter.
Your town may have a minor league football team. You may have a hockey team or a basketball team.
All of these things can make a great date and a great way to help support your local teams.
If none of that sounds good, or if you are simply short of funds there are plenty of fun things you can do right at home.
Have you ever spent any time looking up into the night sky in the winter? If not, you should. The sky can be so crystal clear it is stunning, you should give it a try.
Why not get some inexpensive binoculars or a telescope and take it right out in your own backyard and do some stargazing?
Or something as simple as sitting by a roaring fire while looking out at the snow can be a fun and relaxing, possibly even romantic, way to spend some time together.
I hope I've been able to provide you with some new ideas of things to do during the winter.
With just a little imagination, you can have fun dating in the winter or cold weather months. You don't have to hibernate as soon as the days get shorter.
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Dating Relationship Secrets That Work Together
Dating Relationship Secrets That Work Together
When two people first get together they are infatuated and it is quite common for them to see no fault in each other. They are in the beginning stages of the relationship and they overlook the shortcomings of their partner.
Then some time passes and all of sudden little cracks start appearing. Chances are that you and your partner are well aware of a few problem areas and now you are looking for the secret to relationships.
The truth is that there is no single thing that makes a relationship; instead, it's a series of "maincontentrets" that work together to make a couple happier. Here are a few of the most important ingredients for having a good relationship.
Love - Being in love is not the same as expressing your love for your mate. The big secret to relationships is knowing how your partner likes to be shown love. Some people are perfectly content to hear the words "I love you"; while others need physical proof of love. The easiest way to find out how your partner prefers love to be demonstrated is to ask them.
Trust - Lies damage relationships and even, seemingly small lies will chip away at the relationship, leading to mistrust. Every successful relationship is built on a foundation of trust, and that foundation is often built one stone at a time. However, a single lie, if it's bad enough, can tear it all down. Do your best to be honest with each other and be tactful when the truth is difficult.
Kindness - Do you always treat your partner as though they are the person you love more than anybody else or do you sometimes treat them worse than you would treat your worst enemy? It's sad, but we often reserve our harshest words and actions for our partners. Maybe it's because we think they will always love us, but even if that's the case, it's not an excuse to be mean. Treat your partner with kindness and you will notice your relationship getting better.
Respect - This is more of an open secret to relationships, yet so many people forget its value. Treating each other with respect will make things run smoothly. There should be an underlying respect that permeates all aspects of your relationship. Respect means that you value each other as people and that you care about the other person. If you find that the two of you are arguing more than you used to, then there's a good chance that it's due, in part, to an erosion of respect.
Thoughtfulness - When giving gifts, people often say "it's the thought that counts." This is normally said when the gift isn't all that great; but, thoughtfulness in a relationship is much more than a crafty way of covering up a bad gift. It's a way of letting the other person know you are thinking of them and that's a secret to relationships that can't be faked.
If at some point both parties possess those ingredients for one another, that should make a really good relationship.
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Birth Order and Dating - Prevailing Theories and Stereotypes
Birth Order and Dating - Prevailing Theories and Stereotypes
I'm not totally sure that I really believe a relatively new theory that claims to help you find your best romantic match just based on what order you were born in your family. This birth order and dating theory is interesting though.
But, the idea that birth order and dating somehow go together and can help you determine whom a good match will be for you based on their birth order; may be a fun theory to test.
There are some people who theorize that, for example, two people who were each the first born of their respective families would not make a good match.
The idea is that since both of them were the first born they are both used to having things their way and as a result they would be in conflict and have almost constant power struggles.
It does seem possible that this scenario could hold some validity; but, I also think it relies too much generalization. I know someone who was the oldest and in no way, is she what I would consider the "alpha child".
I don't see any evidence that she is used to getting her own way or that she is a control freak.
She is actually rather timid and seems like she would actually be shy and introverted. On the surface, that seems to blow the theory apart.
I guess that is my main gripe about the prevailing theories about birth order; this method relies on a lot of stereotypes.
I don't believe it's true that every first born is in control or used to getting their own way and needs to control; and I don't believe that everyone who is the baby is spoiled and petulant.
True, many people may adhere to these stereotypes, but not everyone will. For that reason, these theories may be fun and interesting; but, I sure don't think you should run away from your partner just because they were born in the wrong order!
Another theory is that people who didn't have a sibling of the opposite sex will have trouble in relationships, because they don't know how to relate to the opposite sex.
Again, interesting theory but not sure I agree. Though my marriage did fail and I have all sisters, I also know several people whose marriages failed and every one of them had siblings of the opposite sex.
So even though they had opposite sex siblings, apparently that did nothing to improve their relationships; we all ended up divorced!
If you fall in love with someone who is a lot like you it is a narcissistic relationship; you are basically falling in love with yourself.
But isn't this just a case of finding someone you are compatible with? I thought compatibility was supposed to be a good thing.
Now it sounds like my stable loving relationship is only because I'm a narcissist! Hmmm.
Anyway, this type of theory on relationship does, in my opinion, prove one thing; none of us really know what the heck is going on when it comes to relationships.
I think this stuff can be fun, but I sure wouldn't give the theory of birth order and dating much time and I sure wouldn't worry about it when I'm looking for someone to date.
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Facing College Dating - Don’t Make It Bigger Than It is
Facing College Dating - Don’t Make It Bigger Than It is
Students facing the transition from high school to college are likely facing the biggest challenge they've ever had to face. Expectations are raised, both for themselves and from others.
Moving on to college means moving on to a new level of academic performance. It's the time when most of us move beyond being a not so serious teenager to a very serious adult who is focused on furthering their education and planning for their future.
Not only are we expected to think more seriously about ourselves, but at the same time many of us find that we're leaving behind some of the relationships we've formed throughout our earlier school years. Best friends, acquaintances, team members, and even boyfriends and girlfriends are sometimes left behind as we move onto the next important stage in our lives and maturity.
How difficult is it to handle this serious emotional, physical, academic, and personal change?
College life can be intimidating, particularly for those who decide to attend school away from home.
Moving away means not only losing the relationships they've grown comfortable with for so many years, but in many cases losing the emotional support system their family has been for them through their younger years.
All aspects of college life may be completely foreign to the new college student, and college dating only complicates matters.
Why? Because at times many outgoing and engaging young people who had no problem creating dating relationships in high school, may be intimidated by the prospect of dating a new "class" of potential partner.
What you need to remember about college dating is that one shouldn't approach it as such a serious process.
There is plenty of "serious" stuff going on in your transition from high school teen to college adult, so to put too much emphasis on being serious about a relationship is not what college dating should be about.
Try and approach college dating as a way to share the college experience with someone who shares similar interests and preferences.
Seek out dating relationships with classmates who are studying the same classes or are on the same degree track.
In this way, you can be sure that your comfort level is established prior to beginning the formal dating process.
College dating really isn’t that difficult. A new college student already faces enough of a challenge in this very important stage in their lives, so being too serious about their approach to dating shouldn't overwhelm them.
There's plenty of time to be serious about a partner, but if a casual college dating relationship grows on its own into something more substantial, then at least it will come as a result of a natural process rather than an unnecessary focus on being overly serious.
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Are You the Alpha in Your Relationship?
Are You the Alpha in Your Relationship?
Wow, I am amazed and not in a good way. When I started doing some research for this article I couldn't believe some of the garbage that is online. I guess you just have to take what you read online with a huge grain of salt. So, if you want to figure out are you the alpha in your relationship, all you have to do is open your eyes.
Most of the articles I read were by men who advertise themselves as some sort of dating gurus. I laugh every time I see those types of sites. As a woman, I can tell you that much of it is garbage. Sure, sometimes you can find an insecure woman and "play" her and use her insecurities against her, but to what end?
Is that really the type of relationship that someone would want? I don't know, maybe it is. If so, I suggest that anyone who likes finding women that way, take a long hard look at themselves, because it really doesn't say anything good about you.
If you have to resort to these manipulation tactics just to meet women, you are as pathetic and insecure as they are.
Every relationship will have its leader or alpha. And no, it won't always be the man. Sometimes women can be the alpha too. But, are you the alpha in your relationship and is that the best part to play?
I may not be an expert, nor do I go online and pretend to be one, but I have to say that in my experience there is a natural give and take in a good, healthy relationship.
In my own relationships, I consider myself to be the alpha in some aspects, but my partner is the alpha in others. In every relationship each person should be bringing their own strengths to the relationship. And since no one is good at everything, I think the alpha role will ebb and flow.
One day you may find that your particular strengths are needed and for that time, at least, you become the alpha. Yet the next day, you may find that a certain situation needs the strengths of your partner, which may well be your weakness; so, they then will become the alpha.
You've probably heard the saying "absolute power corrupts absolutely". I personally think that is why it is best to have this ebb and flow of the "power" in a relationship. Both of you get to be "on top" some of the time.
That means that all the power isn't always in the control of one person in the relationship. If that happens and one person is always in control, no matter what the situation, the tendency is there for them to take their partner for granted and take advantage of them.
It can also make the other partner, the one with no real power, jealous and angry. This scenario, having one partner with all the power and another partner always feeling like the powerless "sidekick" is not, in my opinion, the best chance for a loving and healthy relationship.
So, if you really want a good relationship, one in which you are able and willing to give as well as take, find someone who you can share the alpha position with. I think in the end that makes for the best relationships. Then, you won't need to ask are you the alpha in your relationship, you'll already know that you are; sometimes.